You can’t help but want really good friends for your kids. You want them to find little companions who will bring out the best in them… challenge them…. take care of them. You want (no, your heart needs) to know that when they go off to school that they will feel safe and loved and know that there is someone excited for them to arrive.
My sweet Adi-girl had this in Kindergarden, she had the best little friend a mommy or a 5 year old could ask for. I didn’t realize what a blessing this was, how much it made that year for my little girl. I didn’t realize until Lucy moved to Peru the summer after. The next year was harder. Some days were good but others were filled with tears and my little one worried over who she would play with at recess. My heart broke, my mind analyzed as I tried to resolve how I could fix her problems over and over. We set up conferences with her wonderful teacher, plus I was in the classroom to see for myself, we planned, we talked, we worried. Hubs and I even worked to teach techniques to our kids on how to make new friends, how to introduce themselves, how to find a new “special”. We tell them to make “good friends” but we don’t show them how to do it, so often who ever is wiling to be their friend is who they get.
But this year is going to be a lot brighter. This year when I put her on the bus that first day, my heart will rest and my excitement will beam as I think of the great day she’s going to have. Little ‘K’ is a friendship that I was very excited to help build, she’s the granddaughter of the most wonderful neighbors anyone could ever ask for! I knew these two girls would be perfect for each other and that the 2 mammas, loving each one of them – held tightly to the same values and beliefs.
I love the quote by Arnold H. Glasow! He said: ”A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.” Could any mother ask for more than that from our children’s friends? Could any of us hope for more than that? I want to know that the friends my kiddos cling to and the type of friend that my kiddos are themselves, will be that rock to help one another to make the right choice, to be their best selves and to believe in a bigger dream.
A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity. – Robert Hall